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Recently, I met someone from outside of the Broadway industry wondering what support is being offered to BIPOC producers, who are simply trying to get their foot in the door. A year ago, I would not have known what help to offer her other than to make a few email introductions to BIPOC producers I admire (which I did for her as well).

It turns out there are many new programs out there but I had not been able to find one place that listed everything. …

The incredible Merritt Minnemeyer. Photo by Jeff Tisman of Tisman Photography

“Talk to me about where you’re at right now”, she asked me. What came out over the next hour was both helpful and a little heartbreaking. But I am so glad I took the time to finally check-in with a professional. And no, in this case, I was not seeing a therapist.

Over a week ago, I took the time to meet with a leadership and executive coach, Merritt Minnemeyer, the founder and creator of Master of One Coaching. Full disclosure, Merritt and I have known each other for over twenty years. She and I both started our own businesses…

My LinkedIn Profile is always evolving

“Do I really need to update my LinkedIn profile?” someone asked the Twitterverse the other day and my resounding answer is “Yes”. Now I’m going to tell you why you need to do so.

Many of us are unemployed or under-employed right now. But I assure you, all that can and will change in the year ahead. Things will get better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. And though new platforms are trying (Alignable, is an interesting one), none has quite as vast an imprint as LinkedIn.

Here are six reasons to be on LinkedIn and…

The promise of the future on a nearby Peekskill Boutique, “Bucko”

“When things go back to normal and we head back to the city”, my husband started to say and the rest of the sentence will forever remain a mystery to me because that’s when my heart stopped.

“How can we even think about the future when I never cleaned my house, lost 50 pounds, finished my novel or successfully made even one loaf of sourdough?”, I wondered. And yet, it was far deeper than that.

A million other things ran through my head, some hopeful, some heartbreaking. And yet, there it was, the truth in some weird way. Life will…

Me and my favorite kettlebell.

It was a year and it felt like everything in my life was constantly in a tailspin. I needed to control something.

I had been working in theater, an institution as old as time and yet everything had shut down.

I was surviving, building out beyond my comfort zone, learning how to use my skillset in new ways. I had three kids in virtual school, a husband working from home at our dining room table and we added a pandemic puppy to the mix in October.

Functionally, I was surviving but I felt out of control and incredibly lonely. Plus…

I needed new business cards but I’m not sure what to put.

“I don’t know who I am anymore now that I don’t have a job”, a friend confided to me over the phone, “I spent so many years working for this company and now, it’s all over.”

“Honey, you didn’t die. Your job just ended. You’re going to have lots of different roles, but there’s only one you”, I assured them. But it’s hard to hear. It’s even harder to digest, that everything you put your time and energy has led to this. You will have to start your career all over again, because the industry you worked in is gone.

It’s been a tough year and losing someone you love can be harder than ever.

After losing someone I love this week rather suddenly, I didn’t know what to do.

There is always the shock when someone dies suddenly but I feel as though the pandemic has made all of us even more socially awkward and within good reason. We can’t all get together to toast someone in person in many cases. We can’t travel as far and, in some cases, we are barred from going to the place where our loved one died. Even a funeral is not what it once was.

On the other hand, this entire year is one of loss for…

You are back to when anything was possible

“You are back to when anything was possible. If you truly thought about everything happening right now, your brain would explode. I’m choosing to think of this year as a Gap Year, to frame for myself how to muddle through it”, I explained to my friend. We’d met for lunch after months of not seeing each other and our focus beyond the safety of our family and the sanity of ourselves, was to talk through what our plans were career-wise.

We both work in an industry that’s been demolished by the pandemic, we both specialize in marketing what’s on-stage and…

The Paramount in Peekskill remains closed but this resilient town learned to pivot.

My industry was killed by the Corona virus. I was getting ready to attend the Opening Night of “Six” on Broadway when everything came to a halt. Shows were cancelled. Everything seemed to end in between the acts of a musical, leaving us at an endless intermission.

I was nearly a year into my first year of running my own marketing and sales strategy business focused on live entertainment and it had been going really well. Then the clientele dried up one by one. I kept a few things hanging on by a thread, dipped my toe into working for…

Jim Cairl and I in tech for “Numerous Women”, 2001, photo by Seth DeCroce

My husband and I both work in theater. This used to be a cute thing to note about us at a cocktail party. Then the world was upended by this horrible virus and everything came crashing down. Live entertainment was put on hold everywhere and we all have to hustle more than ever to make ends meet and keep our lives afloat. And it’s not just us, it’s around 70% of our friends who work in “the business” in some way and all of us are currently playing a part in this bizarre tragedy.

But ever the optimist, I’ve been…

Victoria Cairl

Writes about women and work and all else

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