Why Ava almost wasn’t (and the story of how my daughter came to be)

Ava Aurora Cairl is 16 years old today

I was young and poor and living in NYC when I found out I was pregnant again. My first daughter was 9 months old when I found out. I was on the pill. I’d lost a bunch of weight. I was working constantly at a low-level job at an ad agency on Broadway. And I was on a subway, near tears, explaining the following to my husband who was working a temp job after being unemployed…